How to Get a Break as a Family Carer

Caring for a husband, wife or parent can be rewarding and exhausting at the same time. Regular breaks are not a luxury; they are what lets you keep going.

Ask for a carer’s assessment

If you care for someone, you are entitled to a free carer’s assessment from your local council, separate from the person you care for. It looks at your own needs, including breaks. The NHS carers’ support guide explains how to request one.

Check benefits and support

You may be eligible for Carer’s Allowance, and the person you care for may be eligible for Attendance Allowance. Carers UK and Carers Trust offer advice lines and local carers’ centres.

Build regular time off into the week

• A fixed weekly afternoon that is yours, whatever happens
• An evening out once a fortnight
• A sleeping or waking night sitter if broken nights are wearing you down
• A longer stay of cover so you can take a holiday

A respite sitting service provides a familiar, trusted person to keep your loved one company while you are away. Sitting does not include personal care, so if your loved one needs help with the toilet or medication while you are out, a registered agency or your council can arrange it.

Look after your own health

Keep your own GP appointments, tell your GP you are a carer, and accept offers of help from friends. Short, regular breaks prevent the burnout that leads to crisis.